What was intended to be a 4 day visit to Turkey has now turned into a 3 week long stay, but now I think that my Istanbul adventures must come to a close.
Key lessons learned in Istanbul:
-''Live in the flow''- This, my friends, I have embraced as a way of not letting opportunity pass you by but to take life as it comes to you. Not at all an original concept, but it is something to definitely be mindful of.
-''Tomorrow'' - I swear, the Turkish live by this word. I have never been anywhere where tomorrow is the day when everything that must be done will be done, when great ideas come to life. This, of course, could be perceived as procrastination to the highest degree, but on the flip-side, it could portray a slower, more relaxed pace of life where one is not obligated to complete all tasks in one day.
Sadly enough, I have also learned that everything is so temporary. I was guaranteed to discover this given the extremely ephemeral nature of my project - bouncing around like a ping-pong ball from place to place, host to host, life to life - but it has really hit me here. Friendships are easy enough to come by so long as you are open to making a friend and being a friend, but a deep level of friendship is much more difficult to find. All over the place I have been making new friends, enjoying a life beside them, and being told that I ought to just start my life there (relocate and live in their city)...
I am frightened by the realization that perhaps what I am doing with this project is just as superficial as beginning a Facebook relationship. I am floating into and out of these people's lives without sinking any roots.
I had an interesting discussion with a Polish designer, Maciej, that I met through Özgün (connection chart to come) about the type of relationships our generation forms - temporary, spark-like relationships always with the knowledge of an ''end.'' Maciej claims that it is impossible for us to form the deep relationships that our parents had because the world is a much more fast, extended place than it used to be. Then again, Maciej is also someone that socializes on Facebook while in a room full of people...
Another lesson learned: we are born with a limited number of beats to our hearts, it is a pity to waste any of them. I learned to not waste any of my beats on letting opportunity for fun and youthful indulgence slip through my fingers in Istanbul. I also learned that one waste's one's precious heartbeats on only pursuing fun and stimulation - I need purpose and direction to feel fulfilled.
I came to Istanbul without purpose, direction, aim, goals, and a home. I have lit a fire under myself and am ready to jump! I am ready to make motions that will further me in my path, the hiatus was glorious, but fun loses its zest eventually when its not combined with hard work.